It is completely alright to have issues in a relationship, every relationship goes through. You can’t expect a relationship which never goes through there ups and downs. We can always focus on making our efforts to make the relationship stronger by overcoming every difficult and uncertain situation. There are few things that we can always avoid in a relationship.
We can always learn from our own mistakes as well as the flaw we see in the relationship of the people around us. All it works when we wish to keep our relationship intact. There are 13 things that we can avoid in a relationship
1. Making a public scene
There is nothing worse than making a scene of your relationship and making your relationship a subject of debate for people around you. Judgements, advice, suggestions, and verdicts everyone can provide for others but it will be only the efforts of the two individuals to flourish the relationship. Making a public scene of your issues will just be a source of entertainment for the public and nothing more than that.
2. Trust
Over possessiveness and constant tab on whereabouts of your partner would only make them feel sulk. It makes them feel that you doubt on them, even if you don’t intend to make your feel that you don’t trust. For you, it might be your concern but anything overdone works reverse.
3. Same mistakes again
No relationship is perfect and mistakes do happen. Sometimes we don’t realize that a small mistake can have so many repercussions. The first time maybe it can be out of ignorance. If we make the same mistakes again then it questions the sincerity for the relationship.
4. Criticism for habits
Constructive criticism is another thing and criticising someone for their habits is the one thing to avoid. A relationship shouldn’t force to change the habits, likes and choices of a person. Two-person in a relationship might have different preferences, habits, choices and wants. It is not required to change, criticise, blame or judge someone’s way of liking the way we want.
5. Blame game
Any fight or misunderstandings in a relationship is not something uncommon. It happens everywhere. Rather than addressing the culprit for the situation, you require to be more thoughtful on how to resolve the issue. Even if you prove the blame of your partner, you’re not going to win anything.
6. Involving family
A relationship is something very personal. The relationship works only when the two are willing to make it work. It doesn’t work if your family, friends or relatives want it to work. In the same way, if there are some issues, the two people have to sort that out. Calling names of your partner’s family and bringing them in between would just make it worse. Yes, you can discuss important matters with your family but making a scene of every situation would just make your partner down.
7. Expecting an Ideal Relationship
Nobody is perfect and no relationships too. We can expect the right partner for us but the situation is not right all the time. We have our opinions, disagreements, views and beliefs. Sometimes we agree and sometimes not. You might have fight and disagreements but you can reconcile if your relationship everything. You can’t expect the relationship to be ideal but you can make your relationship strong enough to deal with everything.
8. Reminding Past mistakes
Everyone is prone to commit mistakes and it takes a very brave attitude to apologize for it. When a person has already apologized and the issue has become past, there is no need to bring it again and again. This will make matter worse. Reminding someone count of their mistakes won’t benefit in anything.
9. Not being there when needed
A relationship begins with likeliness towards the person and making them part of your life. They promise to be there with them in all weather. Not many but for everyone, the most important thing in a relationship is to have their partner when they most need. This is for all it means. It is what we need but how many times we have stayed when the other person needed us. So, if we wish for ourselves then we should too avoid not being when needed.
10. Respect their opinion and choices
If two people are in a relationship that doesn’t mean that they are compatible at all levels. Their opinions may differ at some point. Choices might be different. We all have the right to make our choice and opinion. If you don’t have the same opinion, it is fine. But one should avoid disrespecting the viewpoint and choices of the person.
11. Respect family and people
If you don’t respect the family, friends and people of your partner, you ultimately are losing some faith of your partner. Maybe the family and your partner’s friend wouldn’t pay much heed to your approval and likeliness. But you would always expect your partner to be nice to your people, choices and things that make you happy. So, avoid demeaning and disrespecting the family and people of your loved one.
12. Don’t let the ego in between
A person’s ego is enough to spoil every form of relationship. The ego will never take you anywhere and in a relationship, it will not. It is better to put your ego aside and initiate to save your relationship rather than leading your ego to lose your relationship forever.
13. No time investment
The older the relationship gets, we feel less important to invest time in it. Yes, priority does changes with time but you can always have time if you are willing to. Time investment doesn’t necessarily mean the minutes or hour you invest; it is about how honestly you are giving your time.
These are some simple things we all know but we do not follow completely. Sometimes we suggest the same thing to others but how well we follow.