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Happy Fathers day: 13 Things only a father does

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The Silent Strength Behind You

He may not always say it.

He may not always show it.

But if you look closely, you’ll realise that a father’s love is one of the most powerful forces in your life.

While the world talks about the nurturing warmth of a mother (rightfully so), the strength, presence, and quiet resilience of a father often go unspoken. His sacrifices are subtle. His teachings are disguised as advice. And his love? Often unspoken, but always there.

This post is a tribute to that silent force – the man who gave you more than you may have ever noticed. What is to be a father: Society and its stereotypes

Here are 13 things only a father does for you – things that shape your life in ways you may not even realise.

1. He Worries Without Showing It

You may not see it in his face. He won’t always voice it. But deep inside, he’s always thinking about your well-being, your future, your happiness.

Why it matters:

His strength isn’t in showing fear – it’s in facing it silently so you never have to.

What this teaches you:

Real love doesn’t always need to be loud. Sometimes it’s in the quiet protection behind the scenes.

2. He Carries the Weight of Responsibility Without Complaining

A father often bears the pressure of providing, protecting, and guiding, without asking for applause. His long hours, mental stress, and physical fatigue often go unnoticed.

Why it matters:

He silently shoulders the weight so you can stand tall.

What this teaches you:

Strength isn’t about boasting. It’s about quietly showing up every single day.

3. He Teaches You Tough Love

While a mother may comfort you through tears, a father often prepares you for a world that won’t always be kind.

Why it matters:

His lessons may seem harsh in the moment, but they build resilience, discipline, and grit.

What this teaches you:

Growth often comes from discomfort, and sometimes, love looks like a challenge.

4. He Shows Up – Even When It’s Hard

Whether it’s your first school recital, your graduation, or a late-night emergency, he’s there – even if it means putting aside his own needs or comfort.

Why it matters:

Presence is the highest form of love.

What this teaches you:

Showing up for the people you love is the real measure of loyalty.

5. He Pushes You Beyond Your Limits

While he supports you, he also challenges you. He believes in your potential – even when you doubt it.

Why it matters:

He sees strength in you that you haven’t yet discovered.

What this teaches you:

A father doesn’t just protect – he propels you forward.

6. He Sacrifices His Own Dreams Quietly

Many fathers give up hobbies, passions, and even dreams – not because they have to, but because they want you to have a better future.

Why it matters:

These quiet sacrifices lay the foundation for your opportunities.

What this teaches you:

True love is putting someone else’s future before your own comfort.

7. He Leads by Example

You might not realise it at first, but the way he handles stress, treats people, or honours his commitments teaches you more than any words ever could.

Why it matters:

Actions become your blueprint for adulthood.

What this teaches you:

You become who you watch, not who you listen to.

8. He Protects You in Ways You Never See

From steering you away from dangerous people to shielding you from emotional pain, he’s constantly on guard – even if you don’t notice.

Why it matters:

His protection is quiet, instinctual, and lifelong.

What this teaches you:

Not all heroes wear capes. Some wear work shirts and tired eyes.

9. He Teaches You Respect

Whether it’s respect for women, elders, or self-discipline, many of your core values are shaped by how he lives his life.

Why it matters:

Respect isn’t just taught – it’s modelled.

What this teaches you:

Character isn’t what you preach – it’s what you practice.

10. He Holds the Family Together in His Own Way

While mothers may be the emotional glue, fathers often act as the silent framework – the one who quietly keeps things from falling apart.

Why it matters:

Stability often stems from someone choosing to be the anchor.

What this teaches you:

You don’t have to be loud to be essential.

11. He Lets You Fail, So You Can Learn

Sometimes the hardest thing a father does is not rescue you. He lets you face consequences, so you can grow stronger.

Why it matters:

Real growth only happens when you’re trusted to stand alone.

What this teaches you:

A father’s job isn’t to catch you every time – it’s to teach you how to land.

12. He Listens When No One Else Does

Even if he doesn’t say much, his silence is often filled with understanding. He may not solve every problem, but he listens, and sometimes that’s enough.

Why it matters:

Fathers may not always talk about love, but they listen with love.

What this teaches you:

You don’t always need answers. Sometimes, you just need presence.

13. He Loves You in His Own Quiet Way

He may not express it with words or grand gestures, but his love is evident in the way he shows up, worries, sacrifices, teaches, and believes in you.

Why it matters:

His love may not be poetic, but it is powerful, persistent, and pure.

What this teaches you:

Love doesn’t have to be loud – it just has to be real.

The Unsung Hero of Our Lives

A father’s love is not always obvious. It’s not always wrapped in warmth or openly emotional expressions.

But it is steady, strong, and unbreakable.

While he may not always say “I love you,” he says it in 100 other ways:

  • In the early morning wake-ups
  • In the worn-out shoes
  • In the lectures that sound like nagging
  • In the silent sacrifices
  • In the way he keeps showing up – even when tired, even when unappreciated

Let him know today.

If you have a father - or a father figure - who did even one of these things for you, consider yourself incredibly lucky.

What is to be a father: Society and its stereotypes

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When we think of the word “father”, images may come to mind of a man going to work early, coming home late, quietly sitting at the table reading the newspaper, or asking you if you’ve eaten. The role of a father is often painted in simplicity, but behind that still, quiet exterior is a depth of emotion, sacrifice, and responsibility that often goes unnoticed and unacknowledged.

Being a father is much more than providing for a family. It’s about invisible love, silent strength, and unyielding resilience. It’s about a man choosing every day to give more than he receives, to worry more than he lets on, and to carry burdens he never speaks of, because that’s what fathers do.

Beyond the Stereotype: What Society Sees vs. What It Is

Traditionally, fatherhood has been associated with being the “provider.” If the bills are paid, the children are educated, and food is on the table, society applauds the father. But is that truly the full story?

What society often misses is the emotional labour a father carries. The anxiety of job security, the pressure of long-term planning, and the struggle between chasing personal dreams and ensuring his family’s dreams are fulfilled first. Fathers are often the quiet pillars- the ones expected to be stable, even when they’re hurting inside.

The Silent Sacrifices of a Father

Unlike a mother’s sacrifices, which are often visible and openly appreciated, a father’s sacrifices are wrapped in silence. He may never tell you that he skipped upgrading his own car so you could have a better education. Or that he passed up opportunities because he wanted to be near the family. Or that he stayed in a job he hated just so you could pursue your dreams freely.

He may not be expressive, but he notices everything. The worry in his eyes when you fall sick. The pride in his heart when you accomplish something. The pain he hides when he can’t give you everything you ask for.

He doesn’t expect a thank-you. He just wants to see you happy, and that’s enough payment for him.

Being Strong Without Showing Struggle

Fathers are conditioned to be the “rock.” They are told to hold it together, be strong, stay composed, and always be the problem-solver. But even rocks erode. Even strong men feel scared, defeated, or unsure. But often, fathers don’t feel they have the luxury of breaking down.

When things go wrong, he may not talk about it. He’ll walk a little slower, sigh a little deeper, or sit in silence a little longer. His strength is not in never struggling- it’s in showing up despite the struggle.

A Father’s Love Is Quiet but Fierce

It may not come in the form of daily “I love you’s.”

It may not come in the form of warm hugs or long conversations.

But it comes in action.

He fills the fuel in your car, fixes that loose shelf in your room, transfers money quietly when you need it, calls just to say “everything okay?”, or stays awake late until you get home safely. That’s his way of saying he loves you.

His love is not loud- it’s consistent.

The Emotional Gap: Why Fathers Are Misunderstood

Most fathers grew up in environments where expressing emotion was seen as a weakness. They were taught to “man up,” not cry, not complain, and never show fear.

As a result, many fathers don’t know how to open up. They show love by doing, not saying. This creates a disconnect between what they feel and how they are perceived. Children often see their fathers as distant or detached, not realising that behind that distance lies a man who would give his life without hesitation.

When the Father Becomes the Backbone

As the family grows, the responsibilities grow too. From first school fees to weddings, medical emergencies to family vacations, a father becomes the silent planner, financier, and problem solver.

He absorbs the stress so others don’t have to feel it. He hides his own worries to keep the family atmosphere calm. And many times, he never complains, not because he doesn’t feel overwhelmed, but because he sees his role as a protector.

Fathers Age Silently

One day, the man who used to carry you on his shoulders starts needing help up the stairs. His beard gets greyer, his steps slower. But even as age catches up, his sense of responsibility never fades.

He may not say much, but he still worries about you, still prays for your happiness, still checks if you ate. Even when he grows old, he still sees himself as your guardian.

And sometimes, we forget to notice this slow transformation.

Appreciating the Unsung Hero

It’s easy to overlook someone who doesn’t demand attention.

So, take a moment to appreciate your father. Not just on Father’s Day or his birthday- but today. Send a message. Give him a call. Say thank you. Ask about his day. Sit with him. Laugh with him. Hug him.

He may act like it’s nothing. But it means the world to him.

The Real Meaning of Being a Father

To be a father is to:

  • Carry others even when you feel heavy yourself.
  • Provide hope even when you’re uncertain.
  • Celebrate your children’s wins more than your own.
  • Love fiercely, give silently, and endure quietly.
  • Be invisible, but indispensable.

It’s not just about putting food on the table- it’s about putting love in every small act. It’s not just about being present physically- it’s about being emotionally invested, even if it’s unspoken.

The next time you see your father, look a little closer.

See the years of effort etched in the lines of his face.

Feel the warmth in his unspoken care.

Recognise the love that was never loud, but was always there.

Because being a father is not a role- it’s a lifelong devotion.

Conflicts in relationships: How to deal with it

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Every relationship – romantic, familial, or friendship – experiences conflict. It’s not a sign of failure; it’s a sign that two different people are trying to coexist with their own ideas, needs, and wounds.

But how you deal with conflict defines the future of the relationship.

Does it make you stronger – or does it slowly break you?

Conflict Is Not the End - It’s an Invitation to Understand

Let’s explore the common causes of conflict, the emotional roots behind them, and how to deal with disagreements in a way that creates healing, not damage.

Why Conflict Happens: The Real Causes Behind the Arguments

Understanding why conflict arises is the first step toward resolving it with compassion and clarity.

1. Miscommunication or Lack of Communication

Most conflict begins not with what is said, but how it’s said or what is left unsaid.

Example:

One partner says, “You never listen,” but really means, “I feel invisible.”

The problem isn’t the disagreement – it’s the inability to express feelings with clarity.

Solution:

Practice active listening and reflective speaking: “What I hear you saying is…”

Clarifying intentions removes 80% of misunderstandings.

2. Unmet Emotional Needs

Everyone wants to feel loved, heard, respected, and safe. When these needs go unmet, resentment builds – and it often explodes during conflict.

Common unmet needs include:

  • Affection
  • Validation
  • Security
  • Autonomy
  • Attention

Solution:

Ask: What do I truly need right now – and have I expressed it clearly?

Then: What does my partner need that I may not be giving?

3. Past Baggage and Emotional Triggers

We often bring old wounds into new arguments. What seems like a small disagreement can awaken deep pain from the past.

Example:

Your partner being late may trigger memories of being abandoned.

A raised voice might remind you of a traumatic childhood.

Solution:

Own your triggers. Learn to separate the past from the present. Use “I feel” statements instead of blame.

4. Power Struggles and Control Issues

When one or both people feel the need to dominate, win, or “be right,” conflict becomes a competition instead of a conversation.

Example:

Every disagreement turns into a battle for control rather than a mutual understanding.

Solution:

Shift from who’s right to what’s right for the relationship.

Choose resolution over ego.

5. Differences in Expectations

Unspoken expectations – about roles, effort, intimacy, or lifestyle – often lead to disappointment and friction.

Example:

One person expects constant texting; the other values space.

One expects shared finances; the other values independence.

Solution:

Have open conversations about expectations early and often. Reset, revisit, and renegotiate as the relationship evolves.

6. Stress, External Pressure, or Burnout

Sometimes the conflict isn’t even about each other – it’s about life. Work stress, financial pressure, or family tension can overflow into your relationship.

Solution:

Learn to check in during stressful times: “I know things are tough right now. How can we support each other through this?”

How to Deal With Conflict: Emotional Tools That Strengthen the Bond

Now that we’ve explored the causes, let’s talk about solutions. Conflict doesn’t need to end in heartbreak. It can actually bring you closer – if handled with maturity, empathy, and intention.

1. Don’t Aim to “Win” – Aim to Understand

The purpose of resolving conflict isn’t to prove your point. It’s to understand each other more deeply.

Try this:

During conflict, ask: “Help me understand what you’re feeling right now.”

Let the goal be connection, not correction.

2. Take a Pause Before Reacting

In the heat of an argument, emotions can hijack logic. If you react too fast, you may say things you regret.

Try this:

Call a timeout. Take 10–15 minutes apart to cool down. Then come back to the conversation with a calmer nervous system.

3. Speak From Vulnerability, Not Blame

Blame creates defensiveness. Vulnerability invites empathy.

Try this:

Instead of “You always ignore me,” try “I feel hurt when I don’t feel heard.”

Lead with your feelings, not their flaws.

4. Listen Without Interrupting

Listening isn’t waiting for your turn to speak. It’s being fully present, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Try this:

Repeat what the other person said before responding. It helps them feel heard – and helps you reflect before reacting.

5. Focus on the Behaviour, Not the Character

Never attack the person. Address what happened.

Try this:

Say: “I felt disrespected when you cancelled last minute.”

instead of: “You’re so selfish.”

6. Apologise Sincerely, Without Justifying

Apologies heal. But only when they’re sincere and take ownership.

Try this:

“I was wrong to raise my voice. I let my frustration get the better of me. I’m sorry.”

Don’t follow it with “but…” – just own your part.

7. Create a Post-Conflict Ritual

What happens after the argument is just as important as the resolution itself.

Try this:

  • A hug after the resolution
  • A shared walk or coffee
  • Saying “We’re on the same team”

These moments rebuild trust and remind each other: We’re in this together.

When to Seek Help: It’s Not Weakness – It’s Wisdom

If conflict becomes a constant cycle, or if there’s yelling, name-calling, or stonewalling, it may be time to seek external help.

Therapy or counseling can offer tools that go beyond communication – it can heal emotional wounds, uncover patterns, and build lasting emotional intimacy.

Remember: asking for help doesn’t mean your relationship is broken – it means you care enough to repair it.

The Gift Hidden Inside Conflict

Here’s the truth that most people miss:

Conflict isn’t the enemy. Disconnection is.

Every conflict is a sign that something matters. That feelings are alive. That love still wants to be seen.

When handled with intention, conflict leads to:

  • Deeper understanding
  • More emotional safety
  • Stronger trust
  • Honest connection

Think of it this way:

You’re not fighting each other – you’re fighting for the relationship.

Heal, Don’t Hurt – Grow, Don’t Withdraw

Conflict will happen. It’s part of loving someone deeply.

But it doesn’t need to be toxic. It doesn’t need to be a pattern.

Handled with care, it can be a doorway into a deeper connection.

So the next time you argue, pause and ask:

Are we trying to win – or trying to understand?

Are we pushing each other away – or leaning in with love?

Because the goal of love isn’t to be perfect – it’s to be present. To stay, to listen and grow, together.

Things that keep relationship intact: keys to a strong relationship

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Relationships are the threads that weave meaning into our lives. Whether romantic, familial, or platonic, they are built on trust, nurtured by care, and tested by time. In an era where instant gratification often overshadows emotional investment, keeping a relationship strong and intact has become a conscious, continuous effort. It takes more than love to sustain a relationship; it requires presence, maturity, and mutual understanding.

Here are some key pillars that keep relationships intact, strong, and meaningful over time.

1. Effective Communication

Communication is the heartbeat of any relationship. It’s not just about talking but also listening- really listening-to- to understand, not just to reply. In strong relationships, partners feel safe expressing their needs, fears, dreams, and disappointments without the fear of judgment.

Misunderstandings are inevitable, but how we respond to them defines the strength of the bond. Open and honest communication creates a space where issues are addressed before they become irreparable cracks.

Tips:

  • Practice active listening.
  • Don’t interrupt- let your partner finish.
  • Use “I” statements to express how you feel instead of assigning blame.
  • Have regular check-ins to share thoughts and emotions.

2. Mutual Respect

Respect is a silent force that shapes how we treat each other. It shows up in how we speak, how we listen, and even how we argue. Respect means acknowledging each other’s individuality, boundaries, opinions, and choices.

In relationships where respect is lacking, control and resentment begin to take root. But when it’s present, it allows both partners to grow individually while growing together.

Ways to show respect:

  • Avoid belittling or mocking, even in jokes.
  • Support each other’s goals and dreams.
  • Respect privacy and personal space.
  • Recognise and appreciate differences.

3. Trust and Transparency

Trust is the foundation on which all enduring relationships are built. It’s hard-earned and easily broken. Trust doesn’t just involve fidelity or loyalty; it’s also about being emotionally reliable. Can your partner count on you? Are you honest about your feelings and intentions?

Transparency doesn’t mean sharing every thought, but it means having nothing to hide. When there’s trust, there’s peace. And with peace, love flourishes.

Build trust by:

  • Keeping your promises, even the small ones.
  • Being honest-even when the truth is uncomfortable.
  • Avoiding secrecy that breeds suspicion.
  • Apologising when you break trust and working to rebuild it.

4. Shared Values and Goals

Opposites may attract, but shared values keep people together. You don’t have to agree on everything, but alignment on fundamental beliefs-like family, lifestyle, or future aspirations reduce long-term friction.

Relationships thrive when both people feel like they’re heading in the same direction. Whether it’s financial planning, raising children, or personal growth, being on the same page about what matters most ensures smoother navigation through life’s complexities.

How to align:

  • Discuss long-term goals openly and early.
  • Revisit goals as life evolves.
  • Compromise when values clash but never suppress your core beliefs.
  • Celebrate progress toward shared milestones.

5. Emotional Support

Life throws curveballs- stressful jobs, personal losses, health issues- and during these times, emotional support becomes the glue holding a relationship together. A supportive partner listens, encourages, and shows up-not to fix everything, but to walk beside you through it all.

People who feel emotionally supported in their relationships are less likely to feel isolated and more likely to face challenges with resilience.

What emotional support looks like:

  • Acknowledging your partner’s emotions.
  • Being a safe space to vent without judgment.
  • Offering encouragement and reassurance.
  • Being present during tough times, not just good ones.

6. Quality Time Together

Time is love made visible. In the busyness of daily life, especially with work, responsibilities, and digital distractions, carving out intentional time for each other is critical. It’s not just about being in the same room, but being fully present with each other.

Quality time strengthens emotional intimacy. It rekindles connection, reminds partners of their bond, and reinforces why they chose each other in the first place.

Ideas for quality time:

  • Weekly date nights, even at home.
  • Shared hobbies or activities.
  • Device-free conversations during meals.
  • Morning or evening rituals (like walks or coffee together).

7. Conflict Resolution Skills

Conflict isn’t the problem- how you handle it is. Every relationship has disagreements, but healthy relationships navigate conflict without tearing each other apart. People who know how to argue with empathy and resolve issues respectfully tend to stay together longer.

It’s important to fight the problem, not each other. Criticism, defensiveness, and contempt can slowly erode the love you’ve built.

Healthy conflict habits:

  • Focus on one issue at a time.
  • Avoid yelling or using hurtful words.
  • Take breaks if emotions run high.
  • End with a resolution or understanding.

8. Physical Affection and Intimacy

Physical touch plays a vital role in keeping relationships intact. Whether it’s a hug, kiss, holding hands, or more intimate moments, affection helps release oxytocin- the bonding hormone- which strengthens emotional connection.

Intimacy goes beyond the physical. It’s about vulnerability, closeness, and trust. When partners feel emotionally and physically connected, it enhances overall satisfaction and deepens the bond.

Ways to maintain intimacy:

  • Small gestures of affection daily.
  • Honest conversations about physical needs.
  • Creating space for physical connection amidst routine.
  • Understanding and respecting each other’s comfort levels.

9. Forgiveness and Letting Go

No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, say the wrong things, or fail to meet expectations. The ability to forgive- and ask for forgiveness- is essential in keeping a relationship alive. Holding onto grudges creates emotional distance and poisons the connection over time.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning bad behaviour; it means releasing the burden of anger to make room for healing.

Steps to practice forgiveness:

  • Address the issue honestly and calmly.
  • Understand the reason behind the mistake.
  • Apologise sincerely when you’re at fault.
  • Let go of the desire to punish or bring up past mistakes.

10. Commitment to Growth

Relationships are living entities. They grow, evolve, and change- just like people. A commitment to grow together and support each other’s individual development helps relationships remain dynamic and fulfilling.

Stagnancy is often a silent killer. When both partners are committed to personal growth and improvement within the relationship, it adds new energy, ideas, and inspiration.

Ways to grow together:

  • Read or learn about relationships together.
  • Attend workshops or therapy if needed.
  • Encourage each other’s hobbies and self-discovery.
  • Regularly ask: “How can I be a better partner to you?”

Relationships aren’t perfect, but they don’t need to be. What matters is the effort, the care, and the shared decision to keep showing up-even when it’s hard. The things that keep relationships intact aren’t grand gestures or fairy tale moments; they’re the everyday choices we make to love better, listen deeper, and stay committed.

Every lasting relationship has its share of struggles, but those who weather the storms together often find a deeper, more unshakeable love on the other side. Invest in these principles, and you’ll build not just a relationship, but a partnership that stands the test of time.

Important people you shouldn’t ignore

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Modern life is noisy. Deadlines, digital distractions, and the constant pursuit of “more” often pull our attention away from the people who truly matter. We spend hours pleasing strangers online, chasing titles at work, or worrying about opinions that don’t matter – while unintentionally ignoring those who stand by us through everything.

But in the end, it’s not the money or milestones that define our life’s worth – it’s the people.

The quiet supporters. The ones who showed up. The ones who believed in you when you didn’t believe in yourself.

In the Race of Life, Don’t Lose Sight of People Who Matter

Here are 13 important people you should never ignore – and why they deserve your time, respect, and gratitude.

1. Your Parents (or Guardians)

They’re not perfect, but they were your first support system. They gave you life, cared for you when you were helpless, and shaped your values, even if they made mistakes along the way.

As adults, we often get too busy to call or visit. But remember – they won’t be around forever. Time spent with them is a gift you’ll never regret.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their advice, even if it’s outdated.
  • Their need to feel included in your life.

2. Siblings

Siblings are your longest relationships in life. They’re your shared history, the ones who understand where you come from without needing explanation.

Even if you’ve grown apart, it’s never too late to rebuild that bond.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their silent support.
  • The power of forgiveness after childhood rivalries.

3. Your Best Friend

The one who knows your story, not just the highlight reel. They’re the person you vent to, laugh with, and lean on in the storm.

Best friends are rare gems. Life may take you in different directions, but connection doesn’t require constant presence – just effort and heart.

Don’t ignore:

  • That message they sent you weeks ago.
  • Their need for your support, even if unspoken.

4. Your Partner

Romantic relationships often suffer when life gets busy. You assume they’ll always be there – but love that’s ignored eventually fades.

Listen to them. Appreciate them. Don’t let the routine silence the affection.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their feelings when they say they feel distant.
  • The small moments – they’re the foundation of big love.

5. Your Children

If you’re a parent, you already know this: your kids don’t need perfection – they need presence.

A childhood filled with your attention, patience, and love becomes a lifetime of confidence and security.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their stories, even if you’ve heard them 10 times.
  • The opportunity to be their safe space.

6. Your Mentors

These are the people who shaped your thinking, pushed you to grow, and opened doors when no one else would. They may be teachers, bosses, or someone you admire from afar.

Mentors don’t seek applause – they simply want to know they made a difference.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their impact on your journey.
  • The chance to say “thank you.”

7. The Friend Who Checks on You Without Needing a Reason

They’re not in your daily life, but they show up when it matters. They send random texts, remember your tough days, and make you feel seen.

These people are gold.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their emotional labour.
  • The chance to be that kind of friend in return.

8. Your Team or Colleagues

Success is rarely solo. Whether you lead a team or are part of one, the people around you contribute to your achievements.

Acknowledging their efforts builds trust, loyalty, and a work culture that thrives on respect.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their need for recognition.
  • Their humanity outside the job title.

9. The Neighbour or Community Member Who’s Always Kind

It’s easy to overlook the people in our periphery – the neighbour who waters your plants, the local shopkeeper who knows your name, the security guard who greets you daily.

These are the small human touches that build a strong, supportive community.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their kindness.
  • The power of a simple “How are you?”

10. Yourself

Yes, you. In the pursuit of pleasing everyone else, don’t lose connection with your own needs, dreams, and emotions.

Ignoring your mental health, your passions, or your well-being leads to burnout and resentment.

Don’t ignore:

  • Your inner voice when it’s crying for rest or change.
  • The hobbies and dreams that make you feel alive.

11. People Who Disagree With You Respectfully

We tend to avoid or dismiss those who challenge our views. But respectful disagreement sharpens your thinking and broadens your understanding.

You don’t have to agree – but you should listen.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their right to their perspective.
  • The opportunity to grow through discomfort.

12. Elders or Grandparents

They carry wisdom that doesn’t exist in textbooks. Stories of survival, resilience, and love that shaped generations.

We often realise their value when it’s too late.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their desire to share stories.
  • The wisdom in their eyes, even when they’re silent.

13. People Who Believed in You When No One Else Did

Remember that person who gave you your first opportunity? Who saw something in you when you were still unsure of yourself?

These are rare, and they deserve your lifelong gratitude.

Don’t ignore:

  • Their faith in you.
  • The impact they had on your trajectory.

Why People Get Ignored (And How to Change That)

We don’t always ignore people intentionally. Sometimes it’s:

  • Busy schedules
  • Assuming they’ll always be there
  • Digital distractions
  • Taking their love for granted

But the truth is: attention is the most valuable gift you can give.

So, what can you do?

1. Check in Regularly

A message, call, or visit doesn’t have to be long. It just has to be sincere.

2. Practice Gratitude

Say “thank you.” Write a note. Express what they mean to you while you still can.

3. Prioritise People, Not Perfection

You don’t have to have all the answers. Just be present, and be real.

Don’t Let Silence Become Regret

At the end of our lives, it won’t be the titles, trophies, or social media likes we’ll remember. It’ll be the people.

The ones who sat with us in pain, laughed with us in joy, and reminded us we were never alone.

So today, pause.

Call your mom. Hug your dad. Thank your mentor. Text your best friend. Apologise to the sibling. Appreciate the colleague. Sit with your child. Acknowledge the kind stranger.

Don’t wait for a tragedy to realise who matters.

13 Things We Should Avoid in a Relationship

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13 Things we should avoid in relationship

It is completely alright to have issues in a relationship, every relationship goes through. You can’t expect a relationship which never goes through there ups and downs. We can always focus on making our efforts to make the relationship stronger by overcoming every difficult and uncertain situation. There are few things that we can always avoid in a relationship.

We can always learn from our own mistakes as well as the flaw we see in the relationship of the people around us. All it works when we wish to keep our relationship intact. There are 13 things that we can avoid in a relationship

1. Making a public scene

There is nothing worse than making a scene of your relationship and making your relationship a subject of debate for people around you. Judgements, advice, suggestions, and verdicts everyone can provide for others but it will be only the efforts of the two individuals to flourish the relationship. Making a public scene of your issues will just be a source of entertainment for the public and nothing more than that.

2. Trust

Over possessiveness and constant tab on whereabouts of your partner would only make them feel sulk. It makes them feel that you doubt on them, even if you don’t intend to make your feel that you don’t trust. For you, it might be your concern but anything overdone works reverse.

3. Same mistakes again

No relationship is perfect and mistakes do happen. Sometimes we don’t realize that a small mistake can have so many repercussions. The first time maybe it can be out of ignorance. If we make the same mistakes again then it questions the sincerity for the relationship.

4. Criticism for habits

Constructive criticism is another thing and criticising someone for their habits is the one thing to avoid. A relationship shouldn’t force to change the habits, likes and choices of a person. Two-person in a relationship might have different preferences, habits, choices and wants. It is not required to change, criticise, blame or judge someone’s way of liking the way we want.

5. Blame game

Any fight or misunderstandings in a relationship is not something uncommon. It happens everywhere. Rather than addressing the culprit for the situation, you require to be more thoughtful on how to resolve the issue. Even if you prove the blame of your partner, you’re not going to win anything.

6. Involving family

A relationship is something very personal. The relationship works only when the two are willing to make it work. It doesn’t work if your family, friends or relatives want it to work. In the same way, if there are some issues, the two people have to sort that out. Calling names of your partner’s family and bringing them in between would just make it worse.  Yes, you can discuss important matters with your family but making a scene of every situation would just make your partner down.

7. Expecting an Ideal Relationship

Nobody is perfect and no relationships too. We can expect the right partner for us but the situation is not right all the time. We have our opinions, disagreements, views and beliefs. Sometimes we agree and sometimes not. You might have fight and disagreements but you can reconcile if your relationship everything. You can’t expect the relationship to be ideal but you can make your relationship strong enough to deal with everything.

8. Reminding Past mistakes

Everyone is prone to commit mistakes and it takes a very brave attitude to apologize for it. When a person has already apologized and the issue has become past, there is no need to bring it again and again. This will make matter worse. Reminding someone count of their mistakes won’t benefit in anything.

9. Not being there when needed

A relationship begins with likeliness towards the person and making them part of your life. They promise to be there with them in all weather. Not many but for everyone, the most important thing in a relationship is to have their partner when they most need. This is for all it means. It is what we need but how many times we have stayed when the other person needed us. So, if we wish for ourselves then we should too avoid not being when needed.

10. Respect their opinion and choices

If two people are in a relationship that doesn’t mean that they are compatible at all levels. Their opinions may differ at some point. Choices might be different. We all have the right to make our choice and opinion. If you don’t have the same opinion, it is fine. But one should avoid disrespecting the viewpoint and choices of the person.

11. Respect family and people

If you don’t respect the family, friends and people of your partner, you ultimately are losing some faith of your partner. Maybe the family and your partner’s friend wouldn’t pay much heed to your approval and likeliness. But you would always expect your partner to be nice to your people, choices and things that make you happy. So, avoid demeaning and disrespecting the family and people of your loved one.

12. Don’t let the ego in between

A person’s ego is enough to spoil every form of relationship. The ego will never take you anywhere and in a relationship, it will not. It is better to put your ego aside and initiate to save your relationship rather than leading your ego to lose your relationship forever.

13. No time investment

The older the relationship gets, we feel less important to invest time in it. Yes, priority does changes with time but you can always have time if you are willing to. Time investment doesn’t necessarily mean the minutes or hour you invest; it is about how honestly you are giving your time.

These are some simple things we all know but we do not follow completely. Sometimes we suggest the same thing to others but how well we follow. 

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